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Post by Deleted on Mar 8, 2019 14:23:37 GMT
Nearly involved in a head-on collision. Driving down the A421, and an oncoming Lexus suddenly swings across to straddle the centre line of the road and force me on to the grass. Reviewing the dashcam footage afterwards it wasn't quite as small a gap between the oncoming car and the roadside trees as it seemed, but at the time it felt like trying to drive a bus through the eye of a needle.
Note to self: Add "new underpants" to shopping list.
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Post by lynette on Mar 8, 2019 14:25:51 GMT
Scary. Take time to process. Delayed shock possible.
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Post by daisy24601 on Mar 8, 2019 15:02:44 GMT
How frightening! Well done on your quick reaction.
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Post by n1david on Mar 8, 2019 22:37:42 GMT
That sort of evening when you sort of recognise your waiter in a new restaurant, and you ask where he worked before, and after a brief chat you realise that he was the lead in the fringe play you saw two weeks ago...
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Post by TallPaul on Mar 9, 2019 14:24:44 GMT
I've just been in the market for some cow heel. A couple of the fruit and veg stalls were selling something called a nectacot, which I've never seen before. I think it must be a cross between a peach and a plum.  Of course I didn't buy any, even at six for £1. No true Yorkshireman eats fresh fruit, only tinned, with a splash of Carnation. I bought 12 cherry bakewells instead, so along with the tin of marrowfat peas I always have for tea, I'll be getting at least two of my 5 a day. |
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Post by Tibidabo on Mar 9, 2019 14:52:14 GMT
I've just been in the market for some cow heel. Sounds like a load of bull to me. |
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Post by lynette on Mar 9, 2019 15:52:24 GMT
Watching the rugby.
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Post by longinthetooth on Mar 9, 2019 17:50:40 GMT
That sort of evening when you sort of recognise your waiter in a new restaurant, and you ask where he worked before, and after a brief chat you realise that he was the lead in the fringe play you saw two weeks ago... That happened to me a few years ago. Chatting to the waiter, he said he was an actor between jobs. Asked what he'd been in, anything I may have heard of - it turned out he'd been a child star in Byker Grove. Googled him when I returned home and found he'd subsequently been in loads of TV programmes (and not just supporting roles) which I had watched and enjoyed. Oops. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 9, 2019 20:23:33 GMT
Trying to decide whether to quit my job for a different opportunity in the same field. I realise I'm incredibly fortunate to be in this position but am finding it almost impossible to decide whether staying put (which is the easy option) is better than jumping ship...and I have to make my mind up in the next few days.
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Post by justfran on Mar 9, 2019 21:23:05 GMT
Ooh congrats. I always like doing a pros and cons list in these kind of situations. Also good to think - in 6 months time which option would you regret not taking?
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Post by Deleted on Mar 10, 2019 18:53:03 GMT
Continuing my sort out of old stuff and this afternoon I found this excellent picture I drew of a blacksmith and a horse  |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 10, 2019 20:58:09 GMT
I don't think any of my childhood drawings survive, and probably for good reason. I do remember that my parents would proudly display them in the bin, or occasionally in the fire.
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Post by tysilio2 on Mar 10, 2019 21:11:22 GMT
I've just been in the market for some cow heel. Northern! (If anyone was in any doubt) P.S. Did tha' not get some tripe as well. Honeycomb for a bit of exotic! |
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Post by tysilio2 on Mar 10, 2019 21:12:31 GMT
Continuing my sort out of old stuff and this afternoon I found this excellent picture I drew of a blacksmith and a horse Neither can the horse! |
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Post by lou105 on Mar 11, 2019 15:41:02 GMT
Just randomly caught a bit of the Commonwealth Day service on TV, and found T May giving a Bible reading about how every part of the body is important and the body is weaker if one part is missing. Quick interlude for Alfie Boe to belt out Snow Patrol a capella (no idea why), then we sing Dear Lord and Father of Mankind, forgive our foolish ways. I like to think somebody' s having a laugh. (I do realise of course that the Commonwealth is not without controversy, just the Brexit angle made me giggle)
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Post by MrsCondomine on Mar 12, 2019 11:20:30 GMT
Just randomly caught a bit of the Commonwealth Day service on TV, and found T May giving a Bible reading about how every part of the body is important and the body is weaker if one part is missing. Quick interlude for Alfie Boe to belt out Snow Patrol a capella (no idea why), then we sing Dear Lord and Father of Mankind, forgive our foolish ways. I like to think somebody' s having a laugh. (I do realise of course that the Commonwealth is not without controversy, just the Brexit angle made me giggle) This woman makes me angrier than almost anyone else on the planet. She's not just a terrible politician, she is dim as f. |
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Post by daisy24601 on Mar 12, 2019 22:46:39 GMT
Apologies for the upcoming moany post, but I feel a need to get some thoughts down somewhere anonymous and with a wide range of people who may be able to give some different perspectives (if they can be bothered reading and replying!).
I felt okay mostly today but then had to go out to a gathering this evening and suddenly felt very low. I was sad and barely said a word while I was there. I thought maybe I should stay behind after and talk to the couple who were hosting but then everyone was hanging around after so that didn't seem to work. Then I thought I could chat to another lady who was leaving at the same time as me but then this other guy came and joined us who I didn't feel comfortable talking in front of, so again the opportunity was gone. I ended up waiting for the train alone feeling very close to tears.
I was thinking all evening maybe I need to just get a grip and change how I think. Try that positive mental attitude stuff. I feel guilty for feeling like this. Maybe I go with it and tell myself it's fine to feel this way because there's a lot of talk about mental health at the moment and people saying it's okay to be sad. Maybe it's not okay for me to be sad, I don't know. I ask myself what brought it on, why do I feel like this? Maybe I don't have that much to be sad about. So again I feel guilty.
Anyway, rambling over. If you got this far, then thanks. I don't know what I'm asking exactly, just thought maybe some people here have had similar thoughts?
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Post by Deleted on Mar 12, 2019 23:04:15 GMT
Apologies for the upcoming moany post, but I feel a need to get some thoughts down somewhere anonymous and with a wide range of people who may be able to give some different perspectives (if they can be bothered reading and replying!). I felt okay mostly today but then had to go out to a gathering this evening and suddenly felt very low. I was sad and barely said a word while I was there. I thought maybe I should stay behind after and talk to the couple who were hosting but then everyone was hanging around after so that didn't seem to work. Then I thought I could chat to another lady who was leaving at the same time as me but then this other guy came and joined us who I didn't feel comfortable talking in front of, so again the opportunity was gone. I ended up waiting for the train alone feeling very close to tears. I was thinking all evening maybe I need to just get a grip and change how I think. Try that positive mental attitude stuff. I feel guilty for feeling like this. Maybe I go with it and tell myself it's fine to feel this way because there's a lot of talk about mental health at the moment and people saying it's okay to be sad. Maybe it's not okay for me to be sad, I don't know. I ask myself what brought it on, why do I feel like this? Maybe I don't have that much to be sad about. So again I feel guilty. Anyway, rambling over. If you got this far, then thanks. I don't know what I'm asking exactly, just thought maybe some people here have had similar thoughts? I do, often, you are not alone. I find my mental health is cyclical - I can be ok for months (sometimes years even) and then be very far from fine very quickly. It is absolutely ok to feel sad, to feel lonely or to feel just not ok. The key is to find what works for you to get yourself out of that and make things seem a bit more bearable. Talking about it is a great first step - find someone you can just let off a stream of consciousness to. For some people that is a friend or family member, for others it might be a therapist (I know I don't like feeling as if I'm a burden on friends and family even when they tell me I'm not, so I find talking to a therapist works) - there is no right or wrong answer. And other little things that might make you feel less down - I once challenged myself to make a list of one positive thing that had happened per day for 30 days; or else maybe it's something as simple as a day binge watching trashy TV, seeing a movie or treating yourself to coffee and cake in a nice cafe and curling up with a book for the afternoon - it's all self care which has an impact on our mental health and wellbeing. Or if you find they work, apps such as Headspace or Calm (I personally have a love/hate relationship with them as mindfulness doesn't work for me). It's a process of trial and error but it's just about finding what works for you, and most importantly not just suffering in silence. You can always PM me if you don't feel comfortable posting on the board - always happy to help where I can. |
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Post by lynette on Mar 13, 2019 0:03:23 GMT
Please DM or just post here if you feel rotten, alone or whatever. There will be some daft b****** checking the timings for a show in the middle of the night or wondering if she will be able to dayseat Tom Hiddleston. We're here. Keep posting.
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Post by peggs on Mar 13, 2019 11:52:40 GMT
daisy24601 what Lynette said. I certainly sometimes use this board as a refuge sometimes when I can't deal with the day and take comfort in the support and care people share. And I've certainly had/Have times when I feel really alone, tearful, unable to deal with things as I would expect and for no reason I can identify. And yes your trying and failing to speak to people is familiar too. There are times when we need to give ourselves a mental kick and just get on with stuff and times as commented above when you need to be nice to yourself in whatever form that takes and give yourself the ok to feel how you do. Keep sharing here if it helps, people do care.
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Post by daisy24601 on Mar 13, 2019 13:49:03 GMT
Apologies for the upcoming moany post, but I feel a need to get some thoughts down somewhere anonymous and with a wide range of people who may be able to give some different perspectives (if they can be bothered reading and replying!). I felt okay mostly today but then had to go out to a gathering this evening and suddenly felt very low. I was sad and barely said a word while I was there. I thought maybe I should stay behind after and talk to the couple who were hosting but then everyone was hanging around after so that didn't seem to work. Then I thought I could chat to another lady who was leaving at the same time as me but then this other guy came and joined us who I didn't feel comfortable talking in front of, so again the opportunity was gone. I ended up waiting for the train alone feeling very close to tears. I was thinking all evening maybe I need to just get a grip and change how I think. Try that positive mental attitude stuff. I feel guilty for feeling like this. Maybe I go with it and tell myself it's fine to feel this way because there's a lot of talk about mental health at the moment and people saying it's okay to be sad. Maybe it's not okay for me to be sad, I don't know. I ask myself what brought it on, why do I feel like this? Maybe I don't have that much to be sad about. So again I feel guilty. Anyway, rambling over. If you got this far, then thanks. I don't know what I'm asking exactly, just thought maybe some people here have had similar thoughts? I do, often, you are not alone. I find my mental health is cyclical - I can be ok for months (sometimes years even) and then be very far from fine very quickly. It is absolutely ok to feel sad, to feel lonely or to feel just not ok. The key is to find what works for you to get yourself out of that and make things seem a bit more bearable. Talking about it is a great first step - find someone you can just let off a stream of consciousness to. For some people that is a friend or family member, for others it might be a therapist (I know I don't like feeling as if I'm a burden on friends and family even when they tell me I'm not, so I find talking to a therapist works) - there is no right or wrong answer. And other little things that might make you feel less down - I once challenged myself to make a list of one positive thing that had happened per day for 30 days; or else maybe it's something as simple as a day binge watching trashy TV, seeing a movie or treating yourself to coffee and cake in a nice cafe and curling up with a book for the afternoon - it's all self care which has an impact on our mental health and wellbeing. Or if you find they work, apps such as Headspace or Calm (I personally have a love/hate relationship with them as mindfulness doesn't work for me). It's a process of trial and error but it's just about finding what works for you, and most importantly not just suffering in silence. You can always PM me if you don't feel comfortable posting on the board - always happy to help where I can. Thank you for the responses, it means a lot. Similar to you, I have a couple of good friends I live with who I talk to, but feel like I'm burdening them with it all the time. I have a counsellor now, not sure if it's helping but we'll see! I hear a lot about all the positive thinking stuff, my mum was really into it which maybe has partly put me off! I just feel like that is faking it sometimes and maybe I just need to feel what I feel. I also overthink everything which probably doesn't help. But thanks again for the replies, it's nice to be able to come here and put things down in words. |
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Post by peggs on Mar 13, 2019 13:55:45 GMT
There are times when you may have to fake it but equally everyone needs times and people they can be real with and not need to pretend. Glad you found sharing on here an option and a help.
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Post by NeilVHughes on Mar 13, 2019 14:07:22 GMT
But thanks again for the replies, it's nice to be able to come here and put things down in words. Sometimes just having an opportunity to write things down is a release and a good way to understand your feelings. From experience a crowded room can be/is the loneliest place. i love this Exchange from Godot on the ridiculous quest for ‘happy’ VLADIMIR Say you are, even if it's not true. ESTRAGON What am I to say? VLADIMIR Say, I am happy. ESTRAGON I am happy. VLADIMIR So am I. ESTRAGON So am I. VLADIMIR We are happy. ESTRAGON We are happy. (Silence / pause) What do we do now, now that we are happy? |
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Post by kathryn on Mar 13, 2019 14:52:57 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Mar 14, 2019 22:29:10 GMT
Today a disgruntled candidate decided to post an anonymous google review about me. There’s no attempt to provide constructive feedback, just an (arguably libellous) rant.
I’ve cried on and off all day, which is ridiculous because I am a grown woman.
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