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Post by TallPaul on Oct 11, 2017 13:51:46 GMT
I've clearly led a very sheltered life, because until yesterday, I'd never heard of sologamy.
I was listening to a woman being interviewed on the radio who, after a bad relationship, and having reached a certain stage in life, decided to marry herself in a proper ceremony, in front of guests, with proper vows and a white dress.
Deciding to be single and happy is one thing, but this is something altogether different. Interestingly, she then went on to say that she continued to date. (I did wonder at what point it would be considered an affair.) She even dated someone who, after they'd split, decided to marry himself in Las Vegas, obviously.
It's not for me, not least because I still live in hope, but I'd be very interested to know the views of others.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2017 15:07:18 GMT
I hope no one's developed an impression that I'm anything of a romantic, because to be honest the most pressing reason I can see for marriage is to ensure the person of your choosing has full legal rights to you when the s*** hits the fan. I'm sure marriage is a beautiful way to publicly affirm your commitment to your chosen person, but I don't see how someone who hasn't had that ceremony is automatically any less committed. You can commit to a single person romantically for the entirety of your life without going through the rigmarole but if you get mown down by a bus and end up in a coma or worse, then marriage ensures they get into your hospital room, a say in what happens next, ownership of your assets, etc, rather than being shut out in favour of blood relations (who you may not even like). So I can sort of see why marrying yourself might be an empowering thing to do, but as I primarily consider marriage for its legal benefits rather than its romantic ones, it also seems incredibly pointless.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2017 15:17:57 GMT
Likewise I'm pretty sure nobody has ever called me a romantic. And to me marriage is likewise a convenient way to ensure legally everything is ship-shape with one you have already committed to. Add to that planning a wedding frankly sounds like a whole lot of work that frankly I'm not up for...
Also, I don't personally consider marriage a milestone marker or a mark of any 'success' so I'd get nothing out of marrying myself. But hey ho each to their own I guess?
So nah I won't be planning my wedding to myself any time soon.
On a related note I proposed (geddit) a Theatre Dating Agency as @theatremonkey 's next venture earlier. You get to rule out or rule in people based on their theatrical tastes. (And I declared One Man Two Gu'vener's grounds for divorce)
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Post by theatreian on Oct 11, 2017 15:19:27 GMT
I too have never heard of sologmay. I cannot understand in any way why the concept of marrying oneself would be attractive or beneficial.Still each to their own I guess. It is an odd world we live in sometimes!!
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Post by stefy69 on Oct 11, 2017 15:21:46 GMT
Likewise I'm pretty sure nobody has ever called me a romantic. And to me marriage is likewise a convenient way to ensure legally everything is ship-shape with one you have already committed to. Add to that planning a wedding frankly sounds like a whole lot of work that frankly I'm not up for... Also, I don't personally consider marriage a milestone marker or a mark of any 'success' so I'd get nothing out of marrying myself. But hey ho each to their own I guess? So nah I won't be planning my wedding to myself any time soon. On a related note I proposed (geddit) a Theatre Dating Agency as @theatremonkey 's next venture earlier. You get to rule out or rule in people based on their theatrical tastes. (And I declared One Man Two Gu'vener's grounds for divorce) By that token then a fan of Stomp/Thriller would be certainly grounds for justifiable homicide ! |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2017 15:32:28 GMT
stefy69 haha No jury would convict you!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2017 16:12:32 GMT
I guess it would work for someone like Donald Trump, on the grounds that nobody else is worthy.
Sudden thought: What is it called if you marry yourself twice?
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Post by Jan on Oct 11, 2017 17:29:57 GMT
I guess marrying myself would make what several people over the years have told me to do sort of legal. Still biologically difficult, though. I proposed (geddit) a Theatre Dating Agency as theatremonkey.com 's next venture earlier. yep, gottit. Twitter exchange, for those following. Working on it now. On the other hand it would sort of normalise your sex life wouldn’t it ? #OnlyJoking |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2017 18:04:00 GMT
I guess marrying myself would make what several people over the years have told me to do sort of legal. Still biologically difficult, though. I proposed (geddit) a Theatre Dating Agency as theatremonkey.com 's next venture earlier. yep, gottit. Twitter exchange, for those following. Working on it now. I have already threatened Monkey with Divorce though. Clearly as a venture it's going well. Surely as a Monkey though that sort of thing is a bit easier...all that swinging about the place... I'll get my coat, this is the level we normally reserve for Ryan's posts  |
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Post by rockinrobin on Oct 11, 2017 18:05:16 GMT
Do you get proper wedding gifts when you marry yourself? If so, I'm in.
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Post by andromedadench on Oct 11, 2017 18:28:22 GMT
No, I'm horrid. I wouldn't even befriend myself on facebook let alone marry.
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Post by stefy69 on Oct 11, 2017 18:34:31 GMT
I guess marrying myself would make what several people over the years have told me to do sort of legal. Still biologically difficult, though. yep, gottit. Twitter exchange, for those following. Working on it now. On the other hand it would sort of normalise your sex life wouldn’t it ? #OnlyJoking Well you could say go f*** yourself to yourself and nobody would get offended.... Sorry, not very ladylike but then.... |
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Post by Tibidabo on Oct 11, 2017 20:02:08 GMT
Not sure how I'd react when I was late home from work to discover I'd given my dinner to the dog.
And where would it leave the toilet seat?
Too confusing.
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Post by jaqs on Oct 11, 2017 20:21:47 GMT
Do you get proper wedding gifts when you marry yourself? If so, I'm in. I was thinking do I get a tax break and gifts. Still not sure it's worth the hassle. |
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Post by wickedgrin on Oct 11, 2017 22:53:43 GMT
I have never heard of the word - possibly because the word sologamy is not in the English dictionary?
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Post by Phantom of London on Oct 11, 2017 23:10:58 GMT
I too haven't heard of Sologamy, but it all sounds very self indulgent!!!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 12, 2017 7:14:52 GMT
I have never heard of the word - possibly because the word sologamy is not in the English dictionary? Never mind marrying oneself, I want to marry the idea that wickedgrin knows every single word in the English dictionary but is thrown by neologisms on a daily basis. Constantly using words like "absquatulate" or "fugacious" or "velleity" in everyday conversation, but unable to parse precisely what is meant by "emoji" or "agender". |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 12, 2017 8:04:20 GMT
For some I suppose another question is would anyone else marry you?
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Post by Deleted on Oct 12, 2017 8:30:11 GMT
I'd marry me in a second. I can't think of anyone who I love more.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 12, 2017 9:22:34 GMT
I don't really believe in marriage personally. You don't have to sign a piece of paper to say you love somebody. The only purpose I would get married is for the party, the instagram photographs and splitting bills. That said, if someone wants to marry themselves, I don't mind the concept. In this day and age, with so much hatred in the world, I would never judge someone else's happiness.  |
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Post by TallPaul on Oct 12, 2017 12:25:08 GMT
I have never heard of the word - possibly because the word sologamy is not in the English dictionary? It's only a matter of time, like millennial and snowflake. |
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Post by wickedgrin on Oct 12, 2017 16:45:26 GMT
It's only a matter of time, like millennial and snowflake Yes, of course, language is always evolving. |
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