"Should Have not Should Of" and other pet peeves in posts

Is it me or is the 'respect for our language' starting to sound a bit 'make Britain great again' or 'won't somebody PLEASE THINK OF THE CHILDREN'

Seriously though, I personally don't understand why the odd error is such an affront to your sensibilities. Or why making mistakes makes people a terrible individual in the eyes of some here. It's a sad state of affairs to know that we're all being judged by our grammar and spelling by some.

And as Kathryn says (and any good editor/English teacher/sensible person) will tell you English is an unwieldy language and many so called 'rules' are in fact false. But please don't let that get in the way of feeling slightly superior to someone for a moment.

Suffice to say, reading a couple of these comments over the pages, it makes me not want to attend any future meet ups. If you don't like the way I type, god help me when you meet me and I talk and make a mistake!

I quite like it when people say "defiantly" instead of "definitely". It may not be what they mean, but it takes their conviction level from the flat 100% of "definitely" to an excellent 150% of "not only is it the case, but I will say so even if people disagree". In some cases it ends up being far more appropriate than "definitely" ever could have been.

Ah, but that may not be the case at all, Baemax. They may think something is definitely true, but upon being presented with evidence to the contrary, change their mind.
Whereas if they defiantly think it's true, they wouldn't change their mind.

So it's important for the writer to know that defiantly implies something quite different to definitely to the reader.

I haven't learned alot about the English language this morning. But I have learnt a few things about some of the people on this board, and that we clearly would not get along if we met in public.

I'm just going to chime in and say, that as the first poster to reference the term "Nazi" I'm in no way condoning the use of the word - in fact my post was condemning the casual use of the word in the context of a school teacher being picky about letter formation.

If it doesn't stop you understanding what is meant it is ultimately not that important. It would be nice if people learnt to write in ways which did not annoy some readers, but given that this is a free forum - no one is paying to read posts - and you can easily put the posters who annoy you on ignore if it bothers you that much, it's really not worth kicking up a huge fuss over. You are not going to persuade people to change how they habitually write on a forum by berating them.

I hope that part of that learning also includes that people are different, and that just because grammar may not be as important to you doesn't mean that it isn't important to others, or that it isn't allowed to be important to others.

No-one is wrong for wishing that people would use correct grammar, and no-one is wrong for posting on a thread that they find incorrect grammar irritating.  That's an opinion that people are entitled to as much as those who think it doesn't matter are entitled to think that.  To me this thread is starting to become a place to vilify those who do have a concern about the use of the English language, and make us feel bad about voicing our opinions in that regard.

Perhaps that wasn't the intention just as it wasn't my intention in posting to make anyone else feel inferior, but a lot of the posts are starting to come across that way.  That's why I said that the whole point is that there is a need to find a middle ground - no one "camp" (because frankly this does feel like people dividing into two camps now) is more entitled to their view prevailing than the other.  There's a difference between correcting every single instance of incorrect grammar (which would be ridiculous), and simply asking people to give a bit more thought to what they post so that as a matter of standard English grammar it makes sense, particularly in the context of the couple of grammar points that have been pointed out on this thread and are therefore now well known to everyone here.  I don't think that having that very slight extra consideration is a lot to ask.

I am 33 years old I still have no idea how to spell that word. Even when I google it I look at it and think that's not how sounds in my head. I've had to remember its synonyms to look up the correct spelling.

Someone mentioned you're & your. It takes me a good 30 seconds to figure out which one I need to use. I don't know about anyone else.

But actually when you say about I said out loud a few time I pronounce it "definately" not "definitely". I get sometimes the words definite & defiant muddled up I think because the way I'm pronouncing it.

Blimey it took me so long to write that the defiant thing already was posted.

I am not judging anyone for saying their opinion, its a discussion board. But, as an example, if we must go there, I am someone who struggles alot with language. I passed English exams and everything but I stumble over my words, have a slight stutter and talk too fast, to a point where some of my friends have to tell me to just calm down or slow down. And I do struggle with memory occasionally and what the right words are to use. Thats not my fault, it is part of some other issues I won't go into publically here. So hearing that people don't like how some people speak on here, yeah it makes me self-consious, and I wouldn't feel comfortable meeting up with someone who I know from the get-go would have a problem with it. And that is how this whole thread comes across to me, and I'm sure to others as well.